Wednesday, 27 January 2010
Life in the World Unseen
Good morning world... sorry I haven't written in over a week - a very dear family friend unfortunately passed away on Friday. She was my mums best friend and my sister and I grew up with her girls. Anita was only 51 when she passed, and it was all because of complications from an operation that she didnt want to have. I won't go into detail but it has brought up again - which is what usually happens in these situations - the subject of life after death.
When a loved one has passed away, it is very interesting to see how each of the family members deals with it differently. Some cry uncontrollably, some ask lots of questions for reassurance and clarification that that persons life had meaning, some show no emotion whatsoever and some shy away in denial, not believing that this attrocity could possibly have happened to their loved one.
One thing seems constant though, and that is the need to believe that the person they loved for so many years hasn't just been buried 6 feet under and that is the end, but that somehow she is out there somewhere, in a better place where there is no pain, hurt or bad feelings.
My mum and I used to belong to a spiritualist circle, as did my grandparents many years ago. My mum has always felt a very strong connection to spirit and so have I from the age of about 7 when I started healing. During hard times in my life I learned how to meditate and channel my thoughts and after my nanna died I had some very strange experiences indeed which led us to the spiritualist circle. There we learned a lot about spirit - how they communicate with us and why they do it.
From there on I set about searching for clarification myself and the answers I got were all too real. I did in fact make contact with spirit and I found out some wonderful things, but what I could not find out was where they really were... This is the question that baffled me for years. Yes I always believed in Heaven but how real was it? and WHAT was it? I saw many mediums but never really got that answer I was looking for until I came across the book 'Life in the World Unseen' by Anthony Borgia. It is a hugely in depth description of where you go when you die, dictated by a spirit to a medium who wrote it all down. You can read it online here: http://www.angelfire.com/ne/newviews/life.html
The other thing that helped me a lot were 2 books in particular by Dr Brian Weiss. 'Many Minds Many Masters' and 'Only Love is Real'. I felt for a long time that I was looking for real reassurance that after we die we go somewhere and we don't lose the people we love. Dr Brian Weiss was a hypnotist - originally trained very conventionally and was not at all into life after death - who began regressing his patients into past lives unintentionally. Through regressing many patients he realised that anxieties and illnesses we have in this life may well have come due to events we did not deal with in past lives. All his patients also noticed that people they were seeing in these past lives were people that were still in their present lives. What that gave me was clarification that we all have 'soul families'. People who you feel strong connections with in this life, whether it be family members or very good friends, may well have been with you in past lives and will probably be with you in your next lives.
At the moment I am trying to console my friend who has lost her mum at only 25 years old and these are the only things I can tell her that I feel will make her feel just that little bit better. For her to believe that her mum is still out there, looking over her and to know that she will see her again is one of the only things that will get her through this hard time.
People ask many questions at times like these and though I do not know all the answers, I truly believe that the answers I have learned for some of them are the only explinations. One of the most common questions is 'Why do people die so young when they have everything to live for?' The life we are living now is just a blip, a blink of the eye in a spirit world and our souls choose to come into our bodies to learn lessons. Our souls/spirits have to progress and we can only do this by learning the meaning of life. By making mistakes and learning from them and by being good people. Because of this many people ask 'If we choose to come back then why would people choose to go into the life of a starving child in Africa? Or a child of an abusive family?' The answer for this is simple. As souls we can only progress to the next level by experiencing situations that make us learn. We have to learn compassion, understanding, selflesness and many more emotions and we can only learn these things by being in bad situations. If the world was perfect and we never had to strive for anything we'd never learn any lessons. I believe this is the reason we choose to come back.
Many people do not believe in any of this and each person is entitled to his own opinion, but I believe that these positive thoughts and beliefs give hope to people who have lost love ones and if it gives hope, how can it be a bad thing to believe in?
If you are looking for hope or reassurance, give those books a go and see what you think of them. Dr Brian Weiss books can be purchased from Amazon and Life in the World Unseen can be read online by clicking on the link I posted above.
The native American people were a group of very spiritual people who believed in spirit life. I will leave you with a beautiful prayer of theirs which I found through Sara Leslie, a wonderful medium:
I give you this one thought to keep
I am with you still - I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am diamond glints of snow
I am sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awake in the morning's hush
I am the swift,uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled ...f...light
I am the soft stars that shine at night
Do not think of me as gone -
I am with you still - in each new DAWN